QUotes & SAyings

Peter Harris asked:


Arguing between couples is normal and will happen to the best of couples.  Avoiding arguments is probably not healthy and sooner or later one of you will explode.  Arguments are a necessary part of any relationship because they allow you an avenue to express thoughts and opinions that you might not otherwise express.  This is a way for the relationship between a man and a woman to grow and develop.  You will have to make up after an argument.  What you say to a girlfriend after an argument can determine how successful you will be in making up with her.

Be the first one to say I’m sorry.  Pretty simple right?  Not always.  Most of us believe that apologizing means accepting defeat; admitting that we were wrong.  This isn’t the case.  Offering an apology can mean that you are sorry for arguing.  You are sorry for causing your girlfriend any pain.  Saying I’m sorry means that you want to stop arguing and start talking.  Saying I’m sorry to your girlfriend can give you the upper hand after an argument because she will view you as someone that does not always think they are right.  It will show her that her thoughts, opinions and feelings matter too.

Tell her that you love her and you want to make things right - even if you don’t believe that you are wrong.  You want to keep communication open between you two.  Saying these words shows her that you are willing to try to do what is necessary to keep the relationship alive. 

Just talk.  If you find it difficult to apologize or to express loving feelings then just start talking - about anything!  Silence suggests indifference (that you just don’t care) OR that you are still angry.  If you simply start a conversation this will at least open the door to communicating and if it feels right you can revisit the original dispute.  Stay calm though.

Tell her that you respect her feelings.  Women are sensitive individuals.  They often take arguing to a personal level and their feelings become intermingled with the facts.  Express to her that you understand her feelings and that you respect her for that.  If you do this be sure you have a handle on her true feelings.  If you don’t it could easily blow up in your face as being patronizing.

Tell her that you heard what she said and you wanted to think about it for awhile.  Women want to be heard.  They get very frustrated when their guy can’t repeat back what they said or won’t respond to a question because they weren’t listening.  Pay attention to them when they are arguing with you.  Make a conscious effort to remember their main points.  You can say something like this “so you are saying (repeat back the main points).  Is that right?”  Then tell her you’re too angry to discuss this right now.  Let me take some time to think about this so I can discuss the situation more rationally.  This works great.  You are not blowing her off.  You can even set a time to return and discuss the problem.  Just make sure you use your time away to consider what she said. 

Learning what to say to a girlfriend after an argument can mean all the difference in how the two of you will make up, if you will make up at all.  This needs to be handled correctly and following the simple advice above can make all the difference.

Peter Harris asked:


Arguing between couples is normal and will happen to the best of couples.  Avoiding arguments is probably not healthy and sooner or later one of you will explode.  Arguing in this manner is usually counterproductive in that it becomes much harder to control your emotions and to reach a resolution. Arguments are a necessary part of any relationship because they allow you an avenue to express thoughts and opinions that you might not otherwise express.  This is a way for the relationship between a man and a woman to grow and develop.  You will have to make up after an argument.  What you say to a girlfriend after an argument can determine how successful you will be in making up with her.

1. Be the first one to say I’m sorry. 

2. Tell her that you love her and you want to make things right - even if you don’t believe that you are wrong. 

3. Just talk. 

4. Tell her that you respect her feelings. 

5. Tell her that you heard what she said and you wanted to think about it for awhile. 

Learning what to say to a girlfriend after an argument can mean all the difference in how the two of you will make up, if you will make up at all.  This needs to be handled correctly and following the simple advice above can make all the difference.  You must always remember in order to maintain a long lasting, healthy relationship that arguing is not about who wins or loses.  Arguing is about resovling conflicts so your relationship can go stronger.  

Michael Lee asked:


You don’t have to be a Shakespeare to come up with romantic things to say. Neither should you resort to ripping off Sleepless in Seattle or Notting Hill. You’d be surprised to know that the most romantic things to say are usually the most everyday expressions you will ever hear, but spoken in such a way that they get the job done.

So worry not, for it doesn’t take a genius to whip up lines like these. Besides, even geniuses can become fools in the face of love, which means there’s hope for the rest of us.

Although these lines are more applicable to men, women may find them useful too.

1. “You look amazing.”

The most profound kind of beauty is the one that is oblivious to its own stunning power. And the effect is just as stunning when you call attention to it quite unexpectedly. A sudden, admiring remark at the most incongruous of moments can be just as romantic as a rehearsed speech, perhaps even more so.

2. “Come here.”

If you are in the middle of a fight and you feel that there is still a long way to go before you kiss and make up, asking her to “Come here” and giving her a tight squeeze may just be the starting point of resolving your differences.

3. “I never knew what I did good to deserve you.”

There is no need to consult a dictionary or a big, fat self-help book if you are looking for romantic things to say. What you need to do is look into your heart instead. With this line, you are admitting that you do own up to your shortcomings but you appreciate having her in your life.

4. “Holding you just feels so right.”

Physical intimacy is a big factor in any relationship. By telling her how right you feel whenever you are together, your closeness as a couple will be enhanced.

5. “Meeting you is the best thing that ever happened to me.”

If you feel like you’re running out of romantic things to say, a random sampling of your feelings every now and then is definitely the way to go. This is a common romantic line that will not make her think you got it straight out of a movie – because it is so simple; but if you say it in a heartfelt way, it will definitely melt her heart.

6. “I miss you.”

Absence definitely makes the heart grow fonder and if you have not seen each other for some time, saying “I miss you” in person or even over the phone is a must.

7. “Do you even realize how much I love you?”

This line, or a simple “I love you” is still the simplest romantic line that you can ever think of. Why do you think a lot of people make a big deal out of saying it?

Remember these romantic things to say, these sweet nothings whispered in your special someone’s ear, and, where romance is concerned, you’ll never go wrong.