QUotes & SAyings

Richard C asked:


You have had a heated argument with your partner, and he/she has stormed out of the room. Now you feel hurt, angry, and dismayed all at once. Now that you have had time to think about it, the whole reason for the fight seems pretty trivial. Still, you think it is their fault, and you are right no matter what!  Why must you always apologize? You have no doubt heard the saying’ Love is having to say you are sorry’, and to get someone back when they’ve walked out on you, doesn’t have to be difficult.  How to say I am Sorry in a relationship if you think your partner was at fault is hard; but someone has to make the first move, and it may be you if you want to save the relationship. It doesn’t matter if your partner walked out after the argument a few days ago or a few months ago. The same principles to apologize still apply, and all that needs to be done is for you to be determined, committed to your cause, and to take the necessary action to say I am sorry and mean it.

Saying Sorry can Rescue the relationship!

To say I am sorry to your partner, means first figuring out what went wrong, how the argument started, and what was your role in the argument. This isn’t about blaming just for blames sake, it’s about working out what you need to do to apologize, and to make things right in the relationship. Remember it takes two to make a relationship work and having said that it also two to break a relationship, so be honest with yourself and take your share of the blame for what happened. If you know how to say I am sorry and mean it, you will more often than not get an apology from your partner as well, because they will also feel hurt just like you are feeling. Swallow your pride and say ‘I am sorry’ as soon as possible before all is lost!

Arguments can cause breakups in a relationship, and to get your partner back afterwards, means you are going to need an effective top draw apology. The apology must, in effect serve two ends: firstly, an explanation of why you are apologizing, and then a further explanation of what compromises you will implement so that the same problems that caused the argument in the first place will never occur again.  Get these two aspects right, and your apology will work for you just like you want it to.

It takes courage to say you are sorry.

Apologizing when you know you are right takes a lot of courage. No doubt your partner will also realize this, and as a result love you all the more for it. To say I am sorry you can plan a dinner date together or meet at someplace special where there are no interruptions or distractions. Look your partner in the eye when you apologize and mean it from your heart as well. Put feeling into the words while explaining about what happened to start the argument or problems and then elaborate on the second part of your apology, to your partner how what happened; will never happen again.  Your partner will realize that you are serious and sincere in your apology.   Knowing how to say you are sorry in a relationship opens lines of communication again, and you can undo the damage.

 

 

Chris Roberts asked:


You should find out more even you think that you have learnt a bit about the art of dirty talking. There are two sides of everything. If you end up becoming over confident then you may start talking rubbish with your partner. So you have to learn what not to say while talking dirty. If you really want to be erotic and make your partner feel passionate about your dirty talks then you need to take care about both dos and don’ts. I am sure you don’t want to spoil the good sexy mood of your partner by saying the wrong things at the wrong time.

I would explain what not to say while talking dirty by example. Here is the first example. You should not talk to your partner about your menstruation cycles or your physical problems. This would truly turn him off. Never take a chance of talking to your partner about your gastric or unwell stomach problems. The passion that you would have created till now would all go in vain.

Now, here is the example number two. You should never talk to your partner about your pets or your family problems. Nobody would like to listen to these things when they’re in truly sexy mood. If your pet is disturbing you by barking then you should better send it out of your bedroom. Another important thing is don’t rush into things by saying that “Lets finish it quickly I am feeling tired”. If you are tired then how can you expect your partner to feel enthusiastic about you?

Dirty talks can really improve your relationships with your partner. But you need to practice it to reach to the perfection. You can control your partner feelings or mood if you know what not to say while talking dirty.

 

 

Michael Lee asked:


Having a tough time thinking of sweet things to say to your boyfriend? If you try searching online for sweet words to say, majority of the results you get are often in favor of men. However, guys do like to hear Nice things from their partners.

Guys are always expected to say nice things to girls, but why not make a change? Do your share of the intimacy in your relationship. Speak up and make your man appreciate you more by doing so yourself. Some of the sweet things to say to your boyfriend are actually the simplest. This will surely add zest and color to the bond you share.

Words may come as plain remarks, although to some these are powerful expressions of devotion and love, depending on how they are said. Here are some scenarios that you might want to take note of.

1) Men may seem tough and impassive at times, but they do have that soft side. They want their women to comfort them in words and in presence.

So always be ready with sweet things to say to your boyfriend, even if it’s as simple as “Thank you for always being there for me” or “I love you.” Take time to appreciate everything he’s done for you.

2) Women hate it when guys are late in their agreed time. Instead of making a scene, say this instead, “Are you ok? Is everything alright?”

Try to listen to his reason before bursting out. It will be best if you listen first before mouthing uncalled for comments.

3) Men do not like naggers. This is the reason why so many relationships fail because men could not take the agony of hearing women keeping on at them. Instead of being so negative all the time, always have some sweet things to say to your boyfriend.

4) After long hours of work, it would be nice of you to ask him, “Have you eaten already? Can I offer you something?”

By doing so, your boyfriend would be pleased to know that he is important to you and that you truly care. But try not to barrage him with so many questions because these may aggravate him.

5) Compliment your boyfriend with such statements as “You really look good tonight/today.”

Give him an earnest flattering remark. Make him feel confident about himself by praising and uttering nice words about his appearance, or even his attitude and skills. Be careful in choosing your words. As much as possible, be honest about it.

When making remarks or having sweet things to say to your boyfriend, remember to say them at the right time and place. Timing is crucial. It could make or break a compliment. Do not just blurt out in the open because you want to do so. Pick the right moment to say those sweet words to your man.

Julie Redstone asked:


It often happens in the course of a life, and especially when inner movement causes the heart to seek new horizons or relationships in order to further its own growth, that the past must be let go of. Sometimes this involves a physical change of circumstance and a physical separation from what one has formerly loved. Sometimes, the separation is only inner. However it occurs, what is needed in order that forward movement take place, is a saying goodbye to what has been so that a chapter in life can be closed out and a new one begun.

Where letting go appears to be relatively simple, in that a circumstance or relationship is no longer as valued as it once was, while another appears to offer great promise, even then, it is rarely as simple as one might think to say goodbye. For where love has been involved previously, the part of the heart that has loved - whether a person, place, activity, or goal in life - has invested a part of itself and its identity in that thing. It has reached out with its inner being and given of itself so that to whatever degree, what has been loved is now part of oneself.

For this reason, detaching from what has been is rarely as simple as it appears or as one might thinks it ought to be. The part of the self that has lived and grown in the company of a particular person or situation exists in a timeless way. For love itself is timeless, and so at the moment of departure, all that has been is still real to the heart, even if it does not exist as a present desire to remain.

As a result, each soul needs to be both gentle and respectful of the process of saying goodbye to something that was once cared for, not out of fear of letting go or out of guilt about moving on, but out of a sense of respect for truth which, emerging from the heart, lets one know that a chapter in life that has contained ‘life’ is closing so that a new one can begin.

Often, a process that is explicit which allows one to formally take leave of something can be helpful so that the heart feels a sense of closure and can know that everything that is possible to feel in the present has been felt, and what has needed to be said has been said. Where this is not possible due to circumstance, taking leave in one’s mind and heart with a sense of prayerfulness and gratitude for what has been will serve equally well, especially when God’s love is called upon to assist with the process.

Those who are afraid of sadness in saying goodbye and who choose denial or avoidance instead, will miss something valuable by avoiding the process of deliberate closure and deliberate letting go. What will be missed will be the sense of fully choosing the future with one’s whole self, including the part that feels pain or sadness or doubt. This integrity of choice and of consciousness is one benefit to be gained by the process of saying goodbye. Another is that sadness about leaving something often simultaneously evoke the presence of love for what has been, and this, too, can be a blessing. For in life, wherever love is, there, too, gratitude may be for the gifts that have been given to the life of the heart. And no matter what limitations or restrictions may have been placed around that love due to one’s own choices or those of others, the small portion that existed beyond the restrictions needs to be honored for what it was.

The lifeblood of the heart flows from season to season, sometimes changing external circumstances in the process, sometimes changing only the inner landscape of hopes, wishes, and dreams to conform to the process of inner growth. Where one is already embarked upon a conscious spiritual path, these changes will happen with greater awareness, for they are part of the richness of having an inner life that has acquired depth. At the same time, feelings involved in letting go will also be felt more deeply, for in the presence of greater inner clarity, all that exists as emotion becomes more fully revealed.

The present time of expansion of light upon the earth is calling many, now, to let go of the old so that the new can come into being. It is also bringing into awareness a greater sense of truth about what really exists between people and in situations that may have been longstanding. This impetus to grow, brought about by greater light, is part of light’s inherent capacity to further the wholeness of individuals and of the collective consciousness of humanity. It is light’s essential nature to reveal what is true and, simultaneously, through the force of love that it carries, to make it possible.

This, then, is the destined outcome of the time we are in. For many, it is a time of change and of letting go. Yet, on the other side of this, it is also a time of arrival of the new - a life of greater truth, wholeness, and love, brought about by the unfoldment of God’s love for all beings.